December 30, 2012 | Experience, Hope, Strength, Uncategorized | Permalink
If you’ve been following my posts or blog for very long, you know that I talk and teach about finding the power in your “story,” and learning how best to serve others by that power.
I’ve found that as compelling as the story is of my continued sobriety (going on 28 years now), the real power in it is all the people in that time who have seen more potential and possibility for me than I could see for myself.
Earlier this week, I reflected on how fascinated I am by what drives us to grow in love and usefulness and what prevents us, and by what it takes to increase our drive for this and decrease our obstacles.
Here’s the nutshell version of how it works for me:
First I had to get to a point where being loving and useful was my biggest priority. That only happened (for me) once I had exhausted everyone (including myself) with the weight of my self-centeredness.
December 2, 2012 | Experience | Permalink
My work is coaching and training people to tell a more powerful story—one that dramatically moves them and others—in any or all categories of their life.
The formula is pretty simple:
We start by identifying what your current story is, for better or for worse.
August 14, 2012 | Experience | Permalink
Recently, someone came at me with a rash of criticism, based on conclusions they had drawn from something I had done.
No questions, no open dialogue; just a flood of recrimination for how I was handling the situation.
Upon reading the email, I did not go straight to compassion and understanding, as I might teach. Honestly, I was initially pretty angry at her lack of understanding, her seeming desire to make me feel bad, and the absence of any willingness on her part to find a solution to her frustrations.
August 9, 2012 | Uncategorized | Permalink
My experiences in the personal development field have proven without a doubt that we humans are more similar than different.
No matter where I go, I hear the same story of want: we want love, we want a sense of belonging; we want to be seen, heard, understood, and appreciated.
And there’s nothing fundamentally wrong with all this wanting except to the degree that it takes precedence over giving, specifically of the very things I just mentioned.
July 2, 2012 | Experience, Strength | Permalink
There I was, 21-years-old, at 2am in some stranger’s apartment, on all fours, drunkenly pawing and clawing through the shag carpet for the crumbs of cocaine that had fallen there when “Mr. Right Now” had gotten up in a rage and knocked it off the table on his way out of the room. I snorted everything from that carpet that looked remotely like the drug I craved more than life itself, on a complete tear until this man finally dragged me off the floor and back to the couch, where I sat panting and wild-eyed, my heart beating out of my chest while I tried to figure out where he might be hiding the rest of his stash.
May 28, 2012 | Uncategorized | Permalink
…and I’m feeling fine.
Actually, I’m a little overwhelmed by the tasks necessary to moving everything over to this new website, but “this too shall pass.”
If your intentions are good, if they are as pure as they can be, you may not always get things right, but at least you’ll be in your right mind in the attempt.