…of the final night of shooting for Between The Fall And Rise, I fell in love with the cast and crew of this film.
If you follow me on Facebook, you’ve seen my posts about this project, and about the incredible opportunity I’ve been given to support it through my non-profit, Impact First (IF).
If you’ve been following my posts or blog for very long, you know that I talk and teach about finding the power in your “story,” and learning how best to serve others by that power.
I’ve found that as compelling as the story is of my continued sobriety (going on 28 years now), the real power in it is all the people in that time who have seen more potential and possibility for me than I could see for myself.
Earlier this week, I reflected on how fascinated I am by what drives us to grow in love and usefulness and what prevents us, and by what it takes to increase our drive for this and decrease our obstacles.
Here’s the nutshell version of how it works for me:
First I had to get to a point where being loving and useful was my biggest priority. That only happened (for me) once I had exhausted everyone (including myself) with the weight of my self-centeredness.
The formula is pretty simple:
We start by identifying what your current story is, for better or for worse.
Recently, someone came at me with a rash of criticism, based on conclusions they had drawn from something I had done.
No questions, no open dialogue; just a flood of recrimination for how I was handling the situation.
Upon reading the email, I did not go straight to compassion and understanding, as I might teach. Honestly, I was initially pretty angry at her lack of understanding, her seeming desire to make me feel bad, and the absence of any willingness on her part to find a solution to her frustrations.
My experiences in the personal development field have proven without a doubt that we humans are more similar than different.
No matter where I go, I hear the same story of want: we want love, we want a sense of belonging; we want to be seen, heard, understood, and appreciated.
And there’s nothing fundamentally wrong with all this wanting except to the degree that it takes precedence over giving, specifically of the very things I just mentioned.